Erosion of the Superior Sex
The battle for the future of Woman
For most of history, women were objectified, manipulated, and taken advantage of. These dependencies nascent from biological differences in which men are optimised to provide and protect lost their relevancy in modern society. Women are just as capable as men in providing for themselves and society. Inequality’s remaining bastion now hides at the top of the salary range. As Olivia Colman put it during an interview: “I’m very aware that if I were Oliver Colman, I’d be earning a fucking of a lot more than I am.” She is right. Women everywhere are nonetheless able to choose if and when they wish to have a child. Previously, the need for procreation was impressed upon them by their partners and society itself—arguably the same entity. The right to freely choose has provided control over their professional careers and, most importantly, their bodies.
The following examples have unquestionably emerged (and contributed) as a result of this progressive revolution:
Hilma af Klint: Artist
Marie Curie: Physicist and Chemist
Virginia Woolf: Writer
Margaret Thatcher: Britain’s Prime Minister
Tilda Swinton: Actress
It is agreed that these figures (and many others) elevated society and the limits ascribed to their sex. Despite their achievements and positive representation, they are paragons only to a minority of women. This is due to a variety of reasons, whether cultural, monetary, or biological; most of today’s idols are relevant based on their hypnotic potential. One can find them online on any visual platform where they generate income from their followers.
makes a distinctive comparison in his convincing essay: Taylor Swift does not exist.This is what distinguishes Taylor Swift from all the other white-girl pop stars of her cohort, the Katy Perrys and Miley Cyruses who used to be her equals a decade ago and who are, who knows, maybe even still alive somewhere: unlike them, she never sexualised herself. The others very obediently did everything to make themselves desirable, assuming that desire was a limitless resource: it’s not. You will have noticed that Taylor Swift’s fans are uniquely incapable of explaining what they actually like about her. Just that she writes her own lyrics, that it’s all so personal and relatable, that she is so much herself. But the rocks spinning silently in space are also themselves.
Crematorium
Something that has become more understood and accepted in recent years are female hormones. Which can sometimes give rise to mood swings, stress levels, and appetite control, among other effects. Men’s hormones, something less spoken about, manifest more often than not through sexual desire. The emergence of the internet has empowered individuals, whom I refer to as attention succubus, to participate in this demand-driven economy on their own terms. Through dating apps and streaming platforms, they are able to monetise the male solitude and their sexual cravings. One does not need to venture past the locked gates of OnlyFans to find desperate, anonymous, oftentimes middle-aged men, virtually drooling in the comments section. Sadly, the prevalence of such crowds under minor accounts comes as no surprise.
So sure, young women make their own choices. But when we have children sexualising themselves online, when girls as young as 13 are using fake IDs to post explicit content on OnlyFans, and when a third of those selling nudes on Twitter are under the age of 18, I think it’s safe to say we are failing them from an early age.
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All things being relative, what it means to be a successful woman is changing for whoever has more followers and can amass the most money. This innocuous objective change has fueled the soft-porn economy, which in turn has affected society in a myriad of ways. It has increased female objectification, be it cosmetic filler implants, the pressure to exercise, or adorning revealing clothing. All expressions of independence, but reminiscent of their historical reduction to beauty objects. It has also captured two types of men, which I have broken down in the below essay.
A Remembrance of Seduction
The desperate man. Sometimes referred to as the simp. We are familiar with the archetype; women more than men. For the opposite sex, they can either be useful or annoying. They hide among us, only not very well. A quick visit to Twitch streams, such as JenFoxxx, allows us to observe them undetected. Half meth half viagra, these individuals inundate the comments with both obscene and idolising remarks.
The opposite side of the coin carries its own toxicity. Unlike the Addicted man, they do not hide but rather brazenly expose their misogyny. Women are subhuman, useful for sex and bearing children...
This promiscuous reality has had a receding impact: men are more likely to view women as sex objects to worship or interchangeable entities to use, and discard. Women are equating their worth with the attention they receive online. While female suicide attempts are often overlooked due to lower mortality, they are 63% more likely to develop depression than men1. Sexual emancipation has moved from a feature to a requirement. Dinner-for-sex has become an implicit agreement between heterosexual individuals on dating apps. Emma Johnson makes the case for it in her Forbes article, Men Should Pay on First Dates and That Does Not Undermine Feminism. Intimate connection has grown into an algorithmic loop that can be launched repeatedly with anyone, the only cost being the desensitisation of emotions and the loss of our pair-bonding ability2. Rural to affluent, well-educated, and financially independent women are living the gay man's paradise. Casually having sex with a person they have never met, whom they will never see again, and in a place they have never been before. Which would also be the straight man’s paradise if they could get their way–the only problem is that women are less equipped emotionally to handle the emotional penury that comes along with it. This is something
argues in her piece On the desperation of female neediness.If I had an avocado toast for every time a female friend told me how much she loves dating around, I would be on the housing ladder by now! It’s a regular conversation, especially with women who are professionally successful and secure in other ways. They will tell me about their escapades with this or that man and will reassure me that all they want is fun, and they definitely don’t care if it leads to something. The other women in the group will nod in agreement and smile reassuringly. Not me. I was raised by an emotionally reactive mother, so when it comes to picking up on other people’s emotions, I am like a predator in the jungle. I can see the increased moisture in their eye socket and the exaggerated curve of their smiles. These women suffer from what I call ‘sexual revolution Stockholm syndrome’ where because they have no choice but to date casually, they have convinced themselves they are having sex without commitment by choice.
This is especially true for women with well-paid, high-flying careers because the ego-bruising of failing to achieve your personal life goals stings so much more when you have mastered control of all the other aspects of your life.
Quite the opposite of Andrew Huberman, a famous podcaster, AG1 salesman, and Stanford Medicine professor, who has been caught cheating on six different 30-year-olds simultaneously. Regardless of the initiator, after a hookup, the woman is much likelier to feel used, whereas the man will always be satisfied, regardless of whether it was good, bad, regular, or a single occasion. Only during the selecting phase does the power dynamic favour the former. Men become depressed if they have too little sex; women become depressed if they have too much sex.
Taking the biological discrepancy to its logical end, men remain horny, and women remain alone.
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It is hard to pin-point the events culminating in our current regression; only that technology was part of it. Personally, I am fortunate to have mostly female friends, and all of them orbit outside the pornographic periphery. This base of reference, which many men lack, has made me more respectful of the opposing gender but also astute in discerning when I am being manipulated through sexual charm.
I know women who use men as daily meal tickets and men who use women as sex dolls. The compromise is simple: men who do not pay the full bill and women who do not have sex on the first date are icky. As Deva Hazarika said, The continuum from escorting to sugar daddies to regular dating keeps getting hazier. If patriarchy is not real, then how come men have psyoped women into viewing themselves as only sexual objects, illuminating our fantasies and satisfying our needs for a small fee?
Cultivation
What is a woman?
Being asked if you are racist is preferable to being asked what a woman is. Politicians and passersby alike are unable to provide an answer. This is not a jab towards the trans community; everyone should be treated with respect, and I would happily address anyone by their desired pronouns as long as the person didn’t come across as manipulative. However, identity matters, and its definition being diluted harms all women.
Kat ‘Love Yourself’ scene, Euphoria
This lack of foundation leaves every woman to struggle with their sense of self in the search of a valuable ascription to live by. Teenagehood should not be spent trying to fit into beauty standards but instead building on identity and following their likes and aspirations. Someone I myself admire is Bridgit Mendler. Some may recognise her as a former Disney Channel actress or musician. Nowadays, she’s a PhD candidate at MIT but has also co-founded and is CEO of Northwood Space, a satellite startup. It goes without saying that she will never reach Kardashian levels of idolatry.
Coming back to the Andrew Huberman ‘hit piece’ for a moment–I have recently come to the realisation that men do not care about women outside their immediate family. A generalisation, of course, that excludes simps as well as self-hating men. Again, feel free to read the essay here. Most of the male feedback following his simultaneous relationship with six women while having unprotected sex was defensive, and in many cases, praising him for being able to pull it out.
– Andrew Huberman's crime is that as a jacked un-married 48 year old famous guy in California he dated multiple women at the same time. For this he has been sentenced by NY Mag. Just complete bullshit
– so glad they exposed huberman for dating 6 ethereally attractive girlfriends at the same time, can’t imagine why any dude will trust huberman’s advice on anything anymore.
– You just made him sound cooler. About to buy all his stuff now. Thanks for confirming to me that he isn't a limp-wristed femme boy.
These are all tweets with thousands of likes. This has illuminated me on the evolutionary aspect of women being unimpartial and protective when it comes to other women.
Spending a precious hour this am reading this Huberman story, which is *epic* on so many levels.
It's about an epidemic that's emerged over the past 10 years that I have not seen much written about: A rising tide of men who have figured out how to speak the language of emotional intelligence and what the writer refers to as "a profound interest in the internality of women", but instead of using it to nurture and be in service of life and relationships, they're using it to self-aggrandize, control, and manipulate the world for their own ends. Power, sex, money, etc.
– Sara Campbell
Visual apps have left men largely unaffected, since society allows our identities to be separate from our attractiveness. Women are not as fortunate. Be it on Instagram or TikTok, we’re bound to come across influencers whose sole goal is to increase their status by amassing large amounts of followers. To this end, they display their perfect life to the world; on an island somewhere, both ends of their bodies held tight by a tanned six-pack and their cheeks sandwiched by beauty filters. They are all identical. Tanned, injected, and just unintelligent enough to lack self-awareness. You can see Dubai's skyscrapers reflected in their eyes if you look closely enough. It is impossible to escape their interchangeable presence. Thanks to their clinic-sponsored flights, they go from beach to beach to promote matcha green lattes and bikinis. It comes as no surprise that the usage of social media in pre-adolescent women is associated with increased eating disorders3, but also increased body dissatisfaction for the general user4. Read Love Island Molly Mae’s experience here.
A woman’s breasts can be bought from a surgeon, her hair can be cut and sold, beauty replicated using makeup and fillers, soft skin from estrogen, and her clothes at the department store. A woman’s womb can be rented by anyone who can pay for a surrogate and her eggs can be bought at a premium price.
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It is becoming increasingly clear that what it means to be a woman has been hijacked for a multitude of reasons, including: male validation, female envy, and the capitalistic encroachment of the beauty industry. To quote Dune, He who controls the spice controls the universe. To be a woman is to be monetised, regardless of whether consent has been given. Scammers favourite approach is to impersonate them (boobs in bio btw). Meanwhile, AI girlfriends are rapidly improving. Deepfakes are being generated and shared under the grid, and sex robots will soon start their (swaying) march. Dissociating womanhood in a society that still undervalues women will result in men being the Bitcoin and women becoming the alternative coin.
Intersected reads
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https://bmcpsychology.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s40359-022-00743-6#ref-CR42
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2451958821000695?via%3Dihub